If You Don’t Stop Tolerating Things, You May Hate Yourself Later

  • March 2nd, 2014
  • I’m a firm believer that tolerating things that bother us is a really bad idea. How many times have you said about something, “It’s tolerable.” Or, “I can stand it.” Most of the time, I think we’re “standing” things we don’t have to stand.

    As a rule, I think tolerating something is a waste of time and effort, and generally causes our lives to be less enjoyable, satisfying and fulfilling than they need to be. I just don’t see why anything needs to be tolerated.

    Sometimes you need to put your foot down.





  • June 25th, 2013
  • If you’re so inclined, please check out a new blog that addresses the statement:

    “There’s more to life than just being sober.”

    Please browse, comment, and or submit your own post!










    FLIGHT – A Heartbreaking Story of an Alcoholic Addict

  • November 18th, 2012
  • Roger Ebert’s review of the movie Flight is interesting, especially given that he has come out as a recovering alcoholic in print.

    This movie is A MUST SEE !!!  I think it was better the second time, even though it was only 5 days later when I viewed it the second time.




  • October 27th, 2012

    Forget the dramatization of addiction on reality TV. Living with addiction day in and day out is much more horrific. The New York Times nailed it:

    “The degree to which “Smashed” refuses to indulge a voyeuristic taste for the kind of sordid details exploited by reality television amounts to an unspoken declaration of principle.”


    What is “Recovery”?

  • July 25th, 2012

    What Is Recovery? logo


    It’s an age-old question, one that is hotly debated at treatment centers and enthusiastically discussed in 12 Step rooms.

    Now’s your chance to weigh in on the discussion.

    What Is Recovery is a project of the Alcohol Research Group (ARG.  ARG conducts and disseminates research in alcohol consumption and problems, alcohol health services and policies, and trains future generations of alcohol researchers.

    The project is funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

    Participants complete a Web-based survey about your definition of recovery. You do not have to provide any personal identifying information to participate. It is anonymous, which means that we will not be able to identify you as having participated in the study, and we will not be able to link your answers to you. Answers to the web survey also are confidential.

    To be eligible to participate in the project, you must be at least age 18 and consider yourself as being in recovery from an alcohol or drug problem.

    This is important to the recovery and treatment communities.  Please take the time to share your thoughts.


    Is It Odd, or Is It … Synchronicity?

  • June 4th, 2012
  • The Dalai Lama said :  “I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path.”

    Wikipedia describes synchronicity as “the experience of two or more events that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur together by chance, yet are experienced as occurring together in a meaningful manner. The concept of synchronicity was first described in this terminology by Carl Gustav Jung, a Swiss psychologist, in the 1920s.”

    For those of us who need to keep things simple,  Dr. Jung used the simple term “meaningful coincidence” to describe these events.


    Would you believe that I had (another) one just two days ago?  While walking down the block outside of my office, a car stopped at the light beeped at me.  I waved, then recognized the passenger as someone I knew through my work.  She waved me over, asking me to come closer.  I did.  She the said “I just want you to know that meeting you was the greatest thing ever to happen to me.

    As I walked away, I thought to myself:  ”What are the odds that I walked out of work at the same time one of 3,000,000 Chicagoans I knew was driving by?  What if I had stayed a minute longer talking with the front desk staff at work?  What if the light was green when she approached it?  What if I had my iPod earbuds in and the volume was cranked on my iPhone?  What if I had tunnel vision and simply didn’t see her?  Well … we never would have shared that moment.

    The saying in recovery goes:  ”Is it odd, or is it God?”  I guess I’m thinking that “synchronicty” just doesn’t begin to describe what happened.

    What do you think?

    “Recovery”,”Sober Fun” and “Sobriety”

  • April 15th, 2012
  • To many, the terms “recovery”, “sober fun”, and “sobriety” just don’t elicit much excitement, especially from those involved in them.


    Native Americans have created the term “Wellbriety” that combines the words “sobriety” and “wellness” to more fully describe the process of recovery.  In addition, it avoids the stigma associated with those other words.

    How about you?  How do you feel about these words?  Have you found any alternative terms that you feel more comfortable with?

    David B. Bohl is a life coach, chemical dependency counselor, and recovery coach.

    Adult Adoptees Affected by Chemical Dependency

  • October 29th, 2010
  • In collaboration with Adoptees Have Answers (www.aha.mn) , David Bohl will facilitate a group named AAABCD – Adult Adoptees Affected by Chemical Dependency.   AAABCD will provide a safe forum for adoptees aged 18 and older who have been affected by chemical dependency, whether suffering with chemical dependency themselves or witnessing a family member or friend ravaged by addiction.  The group will meet at The Recovery Church, 253 State Street, Saint Paul, MN,  in the Doctor Bob Room the second Monday of every month.

    David Bohl is a domestic adoptee directly affected by chemical dependency.  He shares the following philosophy with Adoptees Have Answers:  The power of the narrative–sharing one’s story with others – empowers, inspires, and positively affects all of those involved in the dialogue.  For those of you with 12-Step recovery experience, this message clearly translates into “One alcoholic (addict, etc.) helping another.”

    The group will affirm 12 Step principles in its support of members, and much emphasis will be placed on acceptance.  Says Bohl: “Accepting ourselves as we are today – truly loving ourselves – is contingent upon giving up all hope for a better past.”

    The group is FREE and open to adult adoptees  18 years and older.   The first support group meeting will be held Monday, December 13th, from 7:00 to 8:00 PM.  For additional information, please contact David Bohl.  Or simply stop by – no reservation needed!

    Lindsay Lohan – Please Get Help

  • September 18th, 2010
  • Dear Lindsay,

    Please , please, PLEASE ask for help.

    You’re quoted in this article as saying “Substance abuse is a disease, which unfortunately doesn’t go away overnight.”

    NO, LINDSAY! Substance DEPENDENCE is a DISEASE. There is no generally-agreed upon definition of substance ABUSE, but it’s no disease according to the DSM-IV-TR of the American Phycological Association of Substance Abuse:

    A. A maladaptive pattern of substance use leading to clinically significant impairment or distress, as manifested by one (or more) of the following, occurring within a 12-month period:

    1. Recurrent substance use resulting in a failure to fulfill major role obligations at work, school, or home (e.g., repeated absences or poor work performance related to substance use; substance-related absences, suspensions or expulsions from school; neglect of children or household)

    2. Recurrent substance use in situations in which it is physically hazardous (e.g., driving an automobile or operating a machine when impaired by substance use)

    3. Recurrent substance-related legal problems (e.g., arrests for substance-related disorderly conduct

    4. Continued substance use despite having persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused or exacerbated by the effects of the substance (e.g., arguments with spouse about consequences of intoxication, physical fights)

    B. The symptoms have never met the criteria for Substance Dependence for this class of substance.


    A maladaptive pattern of substance use leading to clinically significant impairment or distress, as manifested by three (or more) of the following, occurring any time in the same 12-month period:

    1. Tolerance, as defined by either of the following:
    (a) A need for markedly increased amounts of the substance to achieve intoxication or the desired effect or
    (b) Markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of the substance.

    2. Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following:
    (a) The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance or
    (b) The same (or closely related) substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms.

    3. The substance is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than intended.

    4. There is a persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use.

    5. A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain the substance, use the substance, or recover
    from its effects.

    6. Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of substance use.

    7. The substance use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent physical or psychological problem
    that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by the substance.


    Lindsay, please stop talking about AA.  Please reach out and ask for help.

    David B. Bohl in Christine Louise Hohlbaum’s The Power of Slow: 101 Ways to Save Time in Our 24/7 World

  • May 21st, 2009
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    This from Amazon.com:

    Editorial Reviews

    “The Power of Slow is a life-changing book. Far from stating the obvious, Christine Hohlbaum provides new insights and persuasive arguments for reshaping our time and changing our lives for the better. A must read in our over-scheduled world!”–Wendy Walker, author of Social Lives, Four Wives, and Chicken Soup for the Soul – Power Moms

    “In the fast-paced world of Blackberrys, Iphones, and Twitter, it’s hard to find one’s footing. In an easy-to-read style, Ms. Hohlbaum has described a process of slowing down that is so very important to our wholeness, balance, and well being. She does so in a poetic and sometimes humorous way. She has captured a heavy topic with a light touch and yet we learn many lessons.  I highly recommend this book to help anyone who wants to stay healthy, sane, and enjoy life more fully.”–Bonnie Michaels, work-life balance expert and author of Solving the Work/Family Puzzle and A Journey of Work-Life Renewal

    Product Description

    Getting to the heart of our hassled and over-scheduled existence, Christine Louise Hohlbaum cheerfully investigates 101 ways to increase our quality of life and productivity by reevalu ating how we perceive and use time. She claims that everyone has their own personal bank account of time. We cannot control time itself, but we can manage the activities within the time we do have. The Power of Slow gives readers practical, concise directions to change the relationship they have with time and debunks the myths of multitasking, speed, and urgency as the only ways to efficiency.