This Saturday, May 17th, I’ll be Susan K. Wehrley’s guest on the BIZremedies radio show.

Find out the latest Tips in Creating the Life you Want in the most effortless way!

Tune in to 1130 AM in Milwaukee from 3-4 PM Central Time this Saturday, or click here ( http://www.newstalk1130.com/pages/streaming.html) to listen live via the Web.

Click HERE for details.

From my article Why You Should Seek Out New Relationships at The Positivity Blog:

“We tend to become very comfortable within our own social networks. We get to know people, feel comfortable with them, and generally share the same views and ideas as them. This can be a social network of friends, or a group of colleagues at work. We tend to gravitate towards those people who are similar to us in beliefs and personalities.

It is beneficial, though, to push yourself outside your comfort zone and become involved with people who hold beliefs different from our own. Expanding your horizons is one of the greatest ways to achieve success, for you will make better decisions when you have a broader perspective.

It can be uncomfortable, though. There are many reasons why you may not seek out new relationships in your life, and just as many reasons why you should. They are:”

Read the rest of Why You Should Seek Out New Relationships.

Conflict in life is inevitable. No matter where you go or who you are with, you will encounter conflict at some point. It is important to develop healthy conflict resolution strategies, though, to ensure ongoing successful relationships with the important people in your life.

There are many things that can lead to conflict. Whether it occurs in your personal or in your professional relationships, each person brings his or her own moods, ideas, habits, and needs into the relationship. Each of these things creates the possibility of conflict.

When people do not get what they want or perceive they are not getting what they need, conflict can arise as those people begin to act out. Sudden change, boredom, or poor communication can serve to enhance that person’s already acute sense of frustration, hastening the occurrence of the conflict and potentially increasing its severity.

Failure to resolve conflict can lead to the alienation of individuals and cause rifts in relationships. Keep in mind, though, that not all conflict is necessarily negative. In many instances, conflict can lead to increased communication, uncover solutions to a problem, clarify issues, and lead to deeper emotional bonds. Conflict can be the impetus to achieving positive change in your life or in your career.

When you do encounter conflict, there are several things you can do to ensure a successful resolution: Read Post

It is only natural to encounter conflict or to have confrontations in relationships. As people become more familiar with each other, they also become less tolerant of quirks and odd habits. Add to those things the stresses of daily life, which can add up over time.

As stress in a relationship accumulates, it is only natural to encounter conflict. When approached sensibly and with compassion, conflict resolution can lead to greater emotional fulfillment and closer bonds with your partner. However, many people do not take the time to deal with stress or conflict in a productive manner, and instead begin to snipe at their partner out of frustration.

Rather than engage in a rational discussion regarding the issue at hand, they begin to make personal attacks against their partner’s looks, habits, ideas, and abilities. Not only does acting out in such a manner cause a great amount of emotional harm to the other person, but it erodes trust in the relationship and erects a barrier of suspicion between both partners. When this continues over time it can cause serious, and even permanent damage to the relationship.

Fortunately there are some steps you can take to ensure you continue to receive fulfillment from your relationship and prevent you from sinking into the harmful habit of waging psychological warfare against your partner. Read Post

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Do you have a personal plan for success?

Most people today are completely overwhelmed by everything that life throws at them on a daily basis. Because the boundaries between work and personal life have become so blurred, we become lost, confused and derailed from our goals.

Personal success is attained in gradual increments by setting and achieving goals.

At SlowDownFast.com, we have developed a comprehensive, customizable and highly flexible program which addresses such a need: The Slow Down Fast Intensive Empowerment System (IES).

The Slow Down FAST Intensive Empowerment System helps individuals achieve their goals.

Here’s how you can benefit from this program:

• You’ll realign yourself with your purpose.
• You’ll once again connect with your values and talents - and this will ignite your passion and drive to succeed.
• You will leverage your own, unique learning style for quicker retention and more rapid advancement.
• You will be empowered in your personal life, which in turn fuels you professionally and brings you greater commitment and dedication on the job.

For one time only, I’m offering the Intensive Empowerment System workshop FR.EE Read Post

I’m presenting tomorrow at the Biz Tech Expo in Milwaukee. Topic: Personal Development in a Professional World.

Here are the details:

Someone posed an intriguing question to me recently. They asked me “how to make someone’s day in ten minutes.”

I thought about this for a few moments, and then I realized that Mick Jagger has the answer. Come to their emotional rescue.

When I say “emotional rescue,” it sounds like there’s a crisis happening. Certainly, it’s a given that if someone is freaking out or having a meltdown, they might need some attention from you. But that’s not what I’m referring to here.

I’m actually referring to something more subtle - the little things people say and do that indicate that may be needing something at this time. It’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness of our lives, and overlook these subtle cues from people. But they’re there, aren’t they? Noticing others, relating and being there for each other, is what life is really all about.

When we overlook the little things - the courtesy, the attention, and respect that other people deserve from us - this leads to bigger things. Maybe it seems like life is fine, we have our friends, our stuff, and all is well. But is it really?

Many people today have turned to drugs and therapy to alleviate whatever pain or emptiness they’re experiencing. When doctors offer us prescriptions to help shake feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, swinging moods, anger, and other imbalance… this somehow validates our issues, wouldn’t you say? Being handed a bottle of pills confirms what we’re feeling is real.

But what if we also believed that the source of unhappiness, is not only real, but curable in a very real, natural, and human way? Real, meaning through our own reality - the people who we come into contact and connect with. The friendships and relationships we cultivate.

Every human being has emotional needs. The actual need may vary depending on the person, the circumstance, and your role in their life. The intensity will vary as well. But if there is one thing that we all crave these days, but maybe we’re not getting so much of as we did in the past… it’s emotional validation and support.

Who can you rescue emotionally, in just ten minutes? Read Post

Some people are a natural when it comes to tuning in to other people. They have a compassionate nature and can sense what others are about. Or they may have a highly developed sixth sense or intuition that allows them to quickly pick up on other people’s thoughts, feelings, and needs.

If this does not come naturally for you, no problem. There are lots of tools and techniques to help you become a better people person! You might have heard of the science called Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), which combines the dynamics of mind (neuro), words, (linguistic), and their interaction in how it affects our own thought process as well as our communication with others. Several tools that are taught in NLP trainings are valuable in improving our communication with others and for tuning in to other people. Additionally the work of Robert Cialdini, author of Influence, provides helpful methods to increase rapport, which helps us tune in to other people.

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Networking can be great fun - if you’re an extrovert or already know the person you’re talking to. But what if you’re surrounded by complete strangers? How do you just go up to someone and start a conversation out of the blue?

Most people find it distinctly uncomfortable to talk to people they don’t know. In times past, we didn’t really face this challenge often, because the very idea of speaking to a complete stranger was socially unacceptable. You never spoke to someone unless you were formally introduced by a mutual acquaintance whose judgment of the other person you trusted. These days, however, we’re living in a society that makes striking up a conversation with a stranger not only culturally acceptable but sometimes even expected. Luckily for us, most people are more than willing to talk to someone they’ve just met - or, indeed, simply made eye contact with across the buffet table.

Still, it can be difficult to think of what to say or how to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, and don’t know anything about. Here are a few tips to get you started the next time you find yourself facing a complete stranger and are wondering what to say. Read Post