This Saturday, May 17th, I’ll be Susan K. Wehrley’s guest on the BIZremedies radio show.

Find out the latest Tips in Creating the Life you Want in the most effortless way!

Tune in to 1130 AM in Milwaukee from 3-4 PM Central Time this Saturday, or click here ( http://www.newstalk1130.com/pages/streaming.html) to listen live via the Web.

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Conflict in life is inevitable. No matter where you go or who you are with, you will encounter conflict at some point. It is important to develop healthy conflict resolution strategies, though, to ensure ongoing successful relationships with the important people in your life.

There are many things that can lead to conflict. Whether it occurs in your personal or in your professional relationships, each person brings his or her own moods, ideas, habits, and needs into the relationship. Each of these things creates the possibility of conflict.

When people do not get what they want or perceive they are not getting what they need, conflict can arise as those people begin to act out. Sudden change, boredom, or poor communication can serve to enhance that person’s already acute sense of frustration, hastening the occurrence of the conflict and potentially increasing its severity.

Failure to resolve conflict can lead to the alienation of individuals and cause rifts in relationships. Keep in mind, though, that not all conflict is necessarily negative. In many instances, conflict can lead to increased communication, uncover solutions to a problem, clarify issues, and lead to deeper emotional bonds. Conflict can be the impetus to achieving positive change in your life or in your career.

When you do encounter conflict, there are several things you can do to ensure a successful resolution: Read Post

When you are trying to keep up with the daily grind, it is sometimes easy to lose sight of the fact that you reap what you sow in your personal relationships. If it is intimacy you desire, you must first be able to inspire it. If you desire friendship, you must first be able to bestow it. If you seek equality and fairness, then those qualities must work both ways.

Relationships are like flowers. They need sunshine and tending. They need to be looked after. They need attention. Without these things, the relationship will grow stale and wither away, like a flower dying on a vine.

As a relationship blooms, it becomes the priority in each person’s life. Both people put in the effort to make time for each other, to pay attention to each other, and to constantly let the other person know how much they care. There is tremendous happiness in each others’ company, and the relationship brings a great sense of fulfillment.

But as the relationship matures, the struggles of day to day life gradually creep back in, like weeds growing in the garden. At first they may not even be noticeable, but if left unattended, they can slowly take over and choke out the flower.

1. Take the Time for a Loving Gesture Read Post

It is only natural to encounter conflict or to have confrontations in relationships. As people become more familiar with each other, they also become less tolerant of quirks and odd habits. Add to those things the stresses of daily life, which can add up over time.

As stress in a relationship accumulates, it is only natural to encounter conflict. When approached sensibly and with compassion, conflict resolution can lead to greater emotional fulfillment and closer bonds with your partner. However, many people do not take the time to deal with stress or conflict in a productive manner, and instead begin to snipe at their partner out of frustration.

Rather than engage in a rational discussion regarding the issue at hand, they begin to make personal attacks against their partner’s looks, habits, ideas, and abilities. Not only does acting out in such a manner cause a great amount of emotional harm to the other person, but it erodes trust in the relationship and erects a barrier of suspicion between both partners. When this continues over time it can cause serious, and even permanent damage to the relationship.

Fortunately there are some steps you can take to ensure you continue to receive fulfillment from your relationship and prevent you from sinking into the harmful habit of waging psychological warfare against your partner. Read Post

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For one time only, I’m offering the Intensive Empowerment System workshop FR.EE Read Post

Technology. The word itself is enough to strike fear into the hearts of those of us old enough to remember when a three-day turn around on postal mail was considered speedy communication, especially after spending some time with today’s young technological savants. But when you think about it, it wasn’t that long ago that we were going nuts about the latest and greatest gadget and our own parents were shaking their heads at all those “new-fangled gizmos.”

True, technology is changing at an ever-increasing pace, and it can be hard to keep up. But whether we like it or not, our civilization is built on technology and that’s one thing that’s not likely to change anytime soon. (At least, I hope not - I don’t know about you, but I’m not eager to return to plowing fields with wooden sticks and huddling around dung fires for warmth in the winter.) Maybe it’s time we took a few cues from the younger generation and learned to embrace technology the way they have.

So, what can kids teach us about technology? Read Post

Sometimes it’s hard to set boundaries with others. We all want to be liked and to be considered open and friendly. However, people who fail to set and maintain boundaries in their life and work often find that it’s much harder to meet their own needs, and to prevent others from imposing their needs onto them.

Life coaches are constantly teaching their clients that setting boundaries is important to maintaining strong relationships at work and at home. After all, it does no one any good if one part of a friendship, marriage or work situation feels put upon, resentful or over-burdened. Setting boundaries prevents misunderstandings, hurt feelings, awkward situations, grudges and other interpersonal torpedoes from endangering your relationships. And it’s as simple as taking a few easy steps: Read Post

I’m presenting tomorrow at the Biz Tech Expo in Milwaukee. Topic: Personal Development in a Professional World.

Here are the details:

Someone posed an intriguing question to me recently. They asked me “how to make someone’s day in ten minutes.”

I thought about this for a few moments, and then I realized that Mick Jagger has the answer. Come to their emotional rescue.

When I say “emotional rescue,” it sounds like there’s a crisis happening. Certainly, it’s a given that if someone is freaking out or having a meltdown, they might need some attention from you. But that’s not what I’m referring to here.

I’m actually referring to something more subtle - the little things people say and do that indicate that may be needing something at this time. It’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness of our lives, and overlook these subtle cues from people. But they’re there, aren’t they? Noticing others, relating and being there for each other, is what life is really all about.

When we overlook the little things - the courtesy, the attention, and respect that other people deserve from us - this leads to bigger things. Maybe it seems like life is fine, we have our friends, our stuff, and all is well. But is it really?

Many people today have turned to drugs and therapy to alleviate whatever pain or emptiness they’re experiencing. When doctors offer us prescriptions to help shake feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, swinging moods, anger, and other imbalance… this somehow validates our issues, wouldn’t you say? Being handed a bottle of pills confirms what we’re feeling is real.

But what if we also believed that the source of unhappiness, is not only real, but curable in a very real, natural, and human way? Real, meaning through our own reality - the people who we come into contact and connect with. The friendships and relationships we cultivate.

Every human being has emotional needs. The actual need may vary depending on the person, the circumstance, and your role in their life. The intensity will vary as well. But if there is one thing that we all crave these days, but maybe we’re not getting so much of as we did in the past… it’s emotional validation and support.

Who can you rescue emotionally, in just ten minutes? Read Post