Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Focusing on What People DO Instead of What They SAY

Don’t know what the Presidential candidates stand for? With all the rhetoric– and misrepresentations and omissions of fact that you’re hearing from both candidates, it’s tough to tell what their real beliefs are. Not to mention the fact that the press/media is being accused of being on Obama’s side. You can also see this in your daily life. The coworker filled with empty promises. The “friend” who is constantly cancelling lunch. Your local representative who did not vote the way they said when on the stump. (more…)

Lifestyle Coach Puts His Money Where His Mouth Is – Offers FR.EE Teleseminar: How the Average American Can Weather the Financial Crisis Without Becoming Emotionally Overwhelmed

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Down Economy Got You Way Down? It doesn’t have to!

Join me for a FR.EE teleseminar THIS WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 15th, 2008 – 7:00 PM Central.

We all see what’s going on in the world.  It sure isn’t pretty.

The markets and economy are in the tank. Foreclosures, hiring freezes, salary cuts, and layoffs are a given.

We’re hunkered down in our bunkers waiting for the storm to blow over.  Is that the right approach?

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

Think about this:  When businesses feel the heat of the bad economy and decreasing sales, do they hunker down?  No!  They get very proactive.  They look for ways to cut costs and increase efficiencies.

AS INDIVIDUALS, WE SHOULD DO THE SAME THING.

  • Take this time to engage in some self-assessment instead of using all your energy for self-preservation.
  • Build some self-confidence, self-equity, and a foundation for your future – so that you can handle good times and bad.

Now is the best time to engage in a concentrated period of personal evaluation.

1.   Figure out where you are and where you want to go.
2.   Add things to your life that are important to you.
3.   Get rid of the things that just aren’t working anymore.

You don’t have to take it on the chin and allow the bad economy to control every aspect of your life.

Come out of the basement.  Take control.  Empower yourself!

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Is This The Real Thing? 5 Questions You Can Ask To Find Out If Your Relationship Is The One

Love isn’t easy. Oh, sure, falling in love is sometimes the easiest thing in the world – the catch of breath in your throat when you first see them, the infinite hours spent telling each other your stories, the whirlwind passion. It’s as relentless as the pull of gravity.

istock_000003895091xsmall.jpgBut staying in love? Now that’s tough. And what’s harder is knowing when your relationship is more than just a passing fancy, when it’s the real thing. It’s that moment when you stop telling yourself, “Isn’t she great!” and start asking, “Is she the one?”

True love – the sort of relationship in which you could happily spend the rest of your life with this person – relies on more than just chemical cocktails and breathless promises. Passion can substitute for agreement over the short term. But to make it through sickness and health, for better or for worse, you need more than just shooting stars and candy hearts. You need real-world compatibility.

Not sure if your relationship is up to the task? Find out by asking each other the following questions: (more…)

When the People We Love Take Different Paths

istock_000003541474xsmall.jpgLife is change. This much we know. But sometimes we can be unprepared to face the magnitude of change that such growth can bring, especially when it affects relationships we’ve had for years and always considered immutable.

But people do change. It’s not unusual for a couple to be completely different people at 30, 40 and 50 than they were when they first met. Parents continue to grow personally as life goes on, and their children grow (and change) right along with them. Friends change too, sometimes in ways we could have never predicted.

So how do you handle the fact that the man or woman you married, your parent, your child or that the friend you’ve had since childhood has become a completely different person, with different needs, wants and desires? (more…)

Too Busy for Love? 3 Tips to Help You Find Your Soulmate in a Hectic World

istock_000005464814xsmall.jpgIf our culture is guilty of anything when it comes to the subject of love, it’s sending mixed messages. Don’t settle for less than your soul mate…but don’t be too picky, or you’ll spend your life single. You should look for someone whose interests match your own…but opposites attract. You must make sure to create time for love and a family…but you must also work 80-hour weeks if you want to build a career. It’s enough to make your head spin.

With our increasingly busy lives and shrinking personal time, one of the biggest issues on the love front these days can be simply finding someone at all. As much as we crave love and affection and feel the need to share our lives with someone, it’s all too easy to just get frustrated and give up. Or chalk it all up as too much work and settle for a less than fulfilling series of one-night stands, superficial friendships and online connections.

And yet, finding that special someone doesn’t have to be that hard. Here are a few ideas you may not have considered.

Special interest groups. (more…)

Is Your Relationship Ready for Kids?

Children. It’s a big decision, some say the biggest you’ll ever make.

istock_000005013797xsmall.jpgPeople have kids for many reasons. For some, kids are life’s biggest blessing. For others, they’re a moral or religious imperative. For yet others, they’re a way to leave a legacy – a sort of genetic immortality.

One thing is certain, however – once you have kids, neither you nor your significant other will ever be the same. Having kids can make or break a relationship. A lot depends on how strong your relationship is, what your views are on parenthood and raising children, and – most importantly – how compatible these views are with your partner’s.

Before you make such a monumental decision, there are certain questions you need to know the answers to. (more…)

5 Qualities of Successful Relationships

istock_000005327597xsmall.jpgHow is it that some people can be married forever, yet never lose that bloom so often associated with budding romance? People who have sustained, loving relationships for decades have discovered what everyone else is dying to know. They have found the secrets for keeping the relationship fresh, the romance new, and the desire burning over the long haul.

When you look at successful couples you can see some common themes among them. Not only have they been able to maintain a lifelong work life balance that has provided for ample togetherness, but they have also managed to maintain an emotional connection as well. Take a look at some of the most common traits of relationships that have had lasting success.

1. They Like Each Other (more…)

From Greedy to Grateful –

Appreciating What You Have

I’m not implying that you’re greedy, but most of us expect a lot out of life and often forget to be grateful for what we have. We seem to quickly jump from one accomplishment to the next, from receiving good things that we enjoy only briefly to quickly pursuing the next good thing we want. We’re a pretty needy and wanting bunch of beings.

istock_000005768697xsmall.jpgIf you’re at all familiar with the Law of Attraction (LOA), you know that it states that what you put your attention on you attract to you. When you are grateful for what you have, you will be more apt to attract more good to you. When you are greedy and constantly wanting more and the next best thing, you are not stopping to be grateful for what you just received. You are not even taking time to celebrate your success, to enjoy the accomplishment, to revel in having it. What you appreciate, appreciates. That is, what you offer gratitude for grows and more comes your way.

For example, say you wanted a promotion at work and you got it. (more…)

Off the Beaten Path:

How to Build A Better Vacation

istock_000004701539xsmall.jpgVacations, it is often said, cause nearly as much (if not more) stress as they’re supposed to alleviate. Add to that fears of global climate change, growing awareness of environmental issues associated with travel, and the aggravation and crowds that tend to converge in popular spots, and the would-be vacationer could be forgiven for wondering if it wouldn’t just be better to stay home.

And yet, there’s something vitally important about getting away from it all, about checking out from our daily life and experiencing new vistas that gives us a thrill of excitement every time we cross off another day on the countdown calendar. But how do we counterbalance that need with the environmental damage and stress of the traditional vacation? By going non-traditional, of course. And the good news is, taking the road less traveled often means that there’s no need to chuck out the rest and rejuvenation baby with the “evils of travel” bathwater – if you do it right. (more…)

What To Do If Your Daughter “Pulls a Britney”

istock_000005401345xsmall.jpgI hope we all realize that no one is so far gone that they cannot be reached. Perhaps the most difficult part of being a parent is knowing when to step in and when to let our daughters learn life’s lessons on their own. Watching your daughter hurt herself is possibly the hardest thing a parent can ever experience, and it is my wish for the entire Spears family that they find love and forgiveness and shelter from the storm they are going through.

That being said, parents, it’s time to step up to the plate. If this type of crisis is happening in your home, it’s crucial to her future well-being that you get a handle on it, starting now.

You want so many of the same things, but she doesn’t understand that yet. She wants to be independent, and beautiful. And you want that for her, too. You also want her to be capable, strong, loving, and viable. She doesn’t even know what that means.

It’s likely that you have no credibility with her right now. Even if she sees you as the most awful, stupid, mean parent… stand your ground! Remember, she’s not done growing yet. She thinks she’s grown, but her brain is not yet fully developed. Whether she likes it or not, she needs your firm, loving guidance.

A daughter in crisis is not going to appreciate the following suggestions, but consider them anyway. She’ll thank you when she’s older. As her parent, you need to know what you’re dealing with so that you can figure out how to proceed. (more…)