What To Do When Your Life is Falling Apart

sadness.jpgYour marriage is on the rocks. You lost your job. Your best friend isn’t talking to you.

You hurt your back. You are one month away from foreclosure on your home. Your child is sick. Your father died.

Any one of these experiences is traumatic. More than one occurring at the same time could put you into a tailspin. It is really important that you can look deep into yourself and see that some of these things are beyond your control — while others are completely in your power to fix.

Grieving the Unavoidable

Some things, like the death of a friend or family member, are just completely out of your hands. In this instance, it is simply your job to grieve. Too many times I have seen people stoic at the funeral of a parent. They seem to go on with their lives and are praised for being “so strong,” yet they let it eat away at them and feel absolutely miserable on the inside, for years. Even the loss of a job, or the collapse of a relationship, may require a period of grieving in order to understand, and grow from, the emotions that come from such a parting. Any time you experience suffering and loss, you should give your soul the time it needs to mourn, purge, cleanse, and heal.

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How to Get Closer to People

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Do you find yourself longing for closeness in your relationships?

Are you one of the many people today who maybe spends a little too much time on the computer, and not enough time connecting in-person with like minds and kindred souls?

Maybe it’s been so long since you’ve had someone to confide in that you wouldn’t know a good friend if you fell over one?

Or, maybe you’ve been burned in relationships – and you find it hard to trust.

One thing that we need to remember is that all people are different. In terms of friendship, past experience cannot necessarily predict current situations. Sure, if you were hurt by someone who you were close to or trusted, absolutely it’s going to be difficult to open yourself up to new relationships…it’s only human nature. But closing yourself off is not the answer. There are too many wonderful people in the world who can influence your life for the better. Here’s how to find them.

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Choose Your Friends Wisely

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Since most of us spend a good deal of time with other people, we should consider the quality of people we spend the most time with.Who you spend your time with is as significant as what you spend your time doing.

Read the rest of my article Choose Your Inner Circle With Care at the Milwaukee Biz Blog.

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When the People We Love Take Different Paths

istock_000003541474xsmall.jpgLife is change. This much we know. But sometimes we can be unprepared to face the magnitude of change that such growth can bring, especially when it affects relationships we’ve had for years and always considered immutable.

But people do change. It’s not unusual for a couple to be completely different people at 30, 40 and 50 than they were when they first met. Parents continue to grow personally as life goes on, and their children grow (and change) right along with them. Friends change too, sometimes in ways we could have never predicted.

So how do you handle the fact that the man or woman you married, your parent, your child or that the friend you’ve had since childhood has become a completely different person, with different needs, wants and desires? (more…)

How Praise Inspires Others to Succeed

The power of praise has been scientifically documented to help children achieve more than they had believed, providing motivation for them to reach their goals when they thought the task impossible. With children, it is imperative to praise the effort to encourage them to try harder.

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Praise is equally important in adults, but the use of praise to motivate others becomes more complicated. Catherine the Great said, “I praise loudly, I blame softly.” She was a wise woman who understood much about the human spirit, but, as with many things, there are also exceptions to the rule.

In some cases, praise has its greatest effect when it is delivered by a highly critical person. When someone has a predisposition to criticize and is difficult to please, praise can seem like an unattainable goal.

On the other hand, those who deliver praise vocally and regularly often can provide the greatest motivation by withholding it. In instances such as these, the silence screams volumes. (more…)

From Greedy to Grateful –

Appreciating What You Have

I’m not implying that you’re greedy, but most of us expect a lot out of life and often forget to be grateful for what we have. We seem to quickly jump from one accomplishment to the next, from receiving good things that we enjoy only briefly to quickly pursuing the next good thing we want. We’re a pretty needy and wanting bunch of beings.

istock_000005768697xsmall.jpgIf you’re at all familiar with the Law of Attraction (LOA), you know that it states that what you put your attention on you attract to you. When you are grateful for what you have, you will be more apt to attract more good to you. When you are greedy and constantly wanting more and the next best thing, you are not stopping to be grateful for what you just received. You are not even taking time to celebrate your success, to enjoy the accomplishment, to revel in having it. What you appreciate, appreciates. That is, what you offer gratitude for grows and more comes your way.

For example, say you wanted a promotion at work and you got it. (more…)

How To Become Richer in 24 Hours or Less

From my article Create a Richer Life in 24 Hours or Less at Dumb Little Man:

istock_000005967587xsmall.jpgThe overwhelming majority of people wish for more money. Unfortunately, it seems that the more money we accumulate, the richer we want to become. The way I see it, a wish for material wealth is one that is never really fulfilled.

Thank goodness there are two types of riches or wealth that define our lives: there’s being financially rich and there’s being life rich — one doesn’t necessarily exclude the other. You can be both at the same time, at different times, or at no time.”

Read the rest of Create a Richer Life in 24 Hours or Less.

BIZremedies Radio Show Guest Spot

This Saturday, May 17th, I’ll be Susan K. Wehrley’s guest on the BIZremedies radio show.

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Find out the latest Tips in Creating the Life you Want in the most effortless way!

Tune in to 1130 AM in Milwaukee from 3-4 PM Central Time this Saturday, or click here ( http://www.newstalk1130.com/pages/streaming.html) to listen live via the Web.

FREE Personal Development Workshop TONIGHT in Milwaukee Area

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Seek Out New Relationships

From my article Why You Should Seek Out New Relationships at The Positivity Blog:

istock_000005449211xsmall.jpg“We tend to become very comfortable within our own social networks. We get to know people, feel comfortable with them, and generally share the same views and ideas as them. This can be a social network of friends, or a group of colleagues at work. We tend to gravitate towards those people who are similar to us in beliefs and personalities.

It is beneficial, though, to push yourself outside your comfort zone and become involved with people who hold beliefs different from our own. Expanding your horizons is one of the greatest ways to achieve success, for you will make better decisions when you have a broader perspective.

It can be uncomfortable, though. There are many reasons why you may not seek out new relationships in your life, and just as many reasons why you should. They are:”

Read the rest of Why You Should Seek Out New Relationships.