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Parellel Universes: The Story of Rebirth (a memoir) by David B. Bohl

Dear Friends,

After 57 years of living this story, I spent the last 4 years chronicling the lessons I’ve learned. Many of you shared these journeys with me. I’d be honored if you choose to read it, and I hope this narrative entertains, amuses, and inspires. Please freely share any impressions you may have, either through a private message or a post on the Parallel Universes Facebook page. Thank you for your friendship and ongoing support.

“So many adopted people battle with addiction. The consequences of relinquishment are generally unacknowledged in our society, and so wounded children become wounded adults with a desperate need to escape the pain they more often than not can’t even name. David B. Bohl names the pain and, in this naming, creates a new doorway of hope and opportunity for those who struggle to see another life, to see there is hope.” -Anne Heffron, author of You Don’t Look Adopted

In this poignant and powerful memoir, David B. Bohl reveals the inner turmoil and broad spectrum of warring emotions-shame, anger, triumph, shyness, pride-he experienced growing up as a “relinquished” boy. Adopted at birth by a prosperous family, Bohl battled throughout his earlier years to keep up a good front and surpass expectations as he tried desperately to fit in. An overachiever at everything he undertook, whether in sailing, academics, or life as a trader on the Chicago Exchange floor, he continued his search for happiness, often finding it in a bottle or pill, and ultimately becoming a raging and wealthy alcoholic.

Not until David marries and has children of his own does he feel compelled to search for his birth parents to discover if genetics played a role in the well-being of his offspring. “Baby Boy Bender,” as he was labeled in the adoption papers, had been born to a red-haired co-ed who struggled with alcoholism and an athlete who later died of a brain tumor.

After several severe seizures and frequent blackouts, it was time to make a drastic change and admit his addiction. Raised with no religious teachings, David struggled with traditional recovery fellowships and sought out secular supports, where he finally fit in. This support allowed him to learn the stark facts about mental health and addiction, as well as the monumental issues many “reliquishees” need to overcome to find peace and a quality of life they deserve.

Today, David is an independent addiction consultant who fully understands the challenges faced by so many who seek to escape from or drown their pain through external means. His story offers hope to those struggling with the reality of everyday life in today’s increasingly stressful world.

“Vulnerable is the new macho, exposing personal weakness, the new leadership. ‘Parallel Universes’ is a sincere, powerful and well-organized memoir of transformation, from overcompensation to authenticity. David B. Bohl leads with his own painful example and his own humble renewal. David may be a first-time author but he’s a seasoned communicator and a community builder … ‘Parallel Universes’ captures a zeitgeist of a movement away from the broken promises of baby boomer superficial success and an attention to personal and community wellness. This is a story for our time.” – Joe C, broadcaster/writer, author of Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12-Step Life

“‘Parallel Universes’ is one man’s quest to find his truth and freedom in a life that didn’t feel real or right, no matter what. Unpacking secrets from his past, he recovers from trauma and addiction, but does not fit into any traditional box of healing. David B. Bohl invites us to discover that sobriety is not formulaic and that just because we don’t relate to a particular program or feel like we fit in somewhere, doesn’t mean we won’t enjoy incredible clarity and freedom. Bohl has turned his life into a “relentless pursuit of reality” and he may give many readers the courage to find their own way out of struggle. -Tama Kieves USA Today-featured visionary career catalyst, inspired success coach, and author of Thriving through Uncertainty

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Publication date: February 15, 2018

If You Don’t Stop Tolerating Things, You May Hate Yourself Later

I’m a firm believer that tolerating things that bother us is a really bad idea. How many times have you said about something, “It’s tolerable.” Or, “I can stand it.” Most of the time, I think we’re “standing” things we don’t have to stand.

As a rule, I think tolerating something is a waste of time and effort, and generally causes our lives to be less enjoyable, satisfying and fulfilling than they need to be. I just don’t see why anything needs to be tolerated.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down.

 

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David B. Bohl in Christine Louise Hohlbaum’s The Power of Slow: 101 Ways to Save Time in Our 24/7 World

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Editorial Reviews

“The Power of Slow is a life-changing book. Far from stating the obvious, Christine Hohlbaum provides new insights and persuasive arguments for reshaping our time and changing our lives for the better. A must read in our over-scheduled world!”–Wendy Walker, author of Social Lives, Four Wives, and Chicken Soup for the Soul – Power Moms

“In the fast-paced world of Blackberrys, Iphones, and Twitter, it’s hard to find one’s footing. In an easy-to-read style, Ms. Hohlbaum has described a process of slowing down that is so very important to our wholeness, balance, and well being. She does so in a poetic and sometimes humorous way. She has captured a heavy topic with a light touch and yet we learn many lessons.  I highly recommend this book to help anyone who wants to stay healthy, sane; by the use of health products and skin creams, and enjoy life more fully and is what is recommended in many wellness centers as IWC.–Bonnie Michaels, work-life balance expert and author of Solving the Work/Family Puzzle and A Journey of Work-Life Renewal

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Getting to the heart of our hassled and over-scheduled existence, Christine Louise Hohlbaum cheerfully investigates 101 ways to increase our quality of life and productivity by reevalu ating how we perceive and use time. She claims that everyone has their own personal bank account of time. We cannot control time itself, but we can manage the activities within the time we do have. The Power of Slow gives readers practical, concise directions to change the relationship they have with time and debunks the myths of multitasking, speed, and urgency as the only ways to efficiency.

Turn Loss Into Learning

lossThroughout life we all experience losses of some kind. We might lose a loved one such as a family member or friend. We’ve probably all lost a pet. We may lose a house or a car for various reasons, most often through divorce, another big loss. We also lose small objects like keys and papers on a regular basis. And sometimes we lose our self-esteem, and thus lose our way. If you lose your car, don´t worry about it too much, you can buy a used car for a cheap price like this Nissan Micra for Sale Sunderland.

It’s natural to feel sad, angry, and a full range of other emotions. And we should allow some time to go through these feelings, before moving on. Yet, often we grieve longer than necessary because we feel it is what is expected of us. How long you choose to suffer, though, is up to you. If you can step outside your pain long enough to see that you have a choice, you may be able to learn from the experience and take away valuable life lessons, even physical pain has a solution with a pain relief medication. If you want to visit a professional doctor to relieve your pain, then visit this florida pain management clinic to get assistance. Additionally, if you can tune into the place within you that is always at peace, you may be able to get the courage to move on.

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Face Your Obstacles & Turn Them Into Opportunities

opportunity2If you are alive on this planet, you will encounter obstacles. You just can’t escape them. You can have the most well-thought out plan or strategy of where you want to go and how you want to get there. But along the way, unexpected twists and turns show up in the form of obstacles and challenges. They are detours on our direct route to our goals. We can’t escape these obstacles, but we can face them and watch them turn into opportunities. It can be a huge obstacle that you may think is impossible to over come or even a small one that you don´t take to much of your time to overcome it. One obstacle that some of my friends suffered from was excessive sweating, it made them insecure and they never wanted to go out and have fun. But when I went out of my way to help them, I found this iontophoresis treatment to cure what they had and now there are moving on with their life. It´s not hard to overcome those obstacles with a little bit of effort.

However, only you can turn your obstacles into opportunities with your mindset. How you choose to react or act in the face of challenges is always up to you. I know, sometimes it doesn’t seem like you have a choice. That’s because we’re conditioned to think certain things mean something. If this, then that. We’re so conditioned, we forget that we have choices about how we perceive various events in our lives.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

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Did you make any resolutions this New Year? You most likely had good intentions when making them, but how are you doing at keeping them?

The most common New Year’s resolutions I’ve seen are to lose weight, make money, and get or improve a relationship. Are these on your list of resolutions?

Most people may write out their resolutions, but I rarely see that they’ve developed a set of actions to achieve their goals. When you want to change a habit or unwanted behavior, you’re going to need more than just the desire or will power. You will need some specific actions, you may need some support and guidance, and you will definitely need accountability. Did you plan these along with your resolutions? I would venture to guess you didn’t!

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Beyond the Resume: Ideas for Building Wealth in a Bad Economy

istock_000003269650xsmallIt seems like every time you turn on the TV these days, the stock market has sunk even lower and the housing market isn’t looking so hot either. People are getting laid off from their jobs almost on a daily basis and with it being an election year, everyone in America is looking for some kind of a change (no matter who wins the election).

Well, go ahead and take a big sigh of relief because I have some good news to share with you. Even though we’re going through a bit of a rough spot doesn’t mean you just have to throw up your hands and deal with it. Learn how to build your own wealth in a bad economy–and realize that it’s about more than what shows on your resume. Take matters into your own hands and take action now.

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Five Myths about Life and How You Should Be Living It

joy.jpgEvery day, we’re bombarded by television commercials, celebrity spokespeople, and advertisements telling us the “right” way to live.

We are told to strive for unattainable lifestyles and to model ourselves after unrealistic, airbrushed models.

Sometimes you need to step back from this virtual reality and ponder what life is really about. Will that Mercedes or those anti-anxiety medications really make you happier, or are they only temporary solutions to deeper issues? Examine these five myths about how you should be living your life and start living the way you want to live.

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Five Great Leaders of Our Time and What We Can Learn from Them

by David Bohl, Personal Coach and Lifestyle Designer

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines a leader as “a person who has commanding authority or influence.” Though this definition leaves room for leaders who influence their followers in a negative manner, such as Adolf Hitler, there are many leaders who have changed the world for good. In taking a page from the book of these modern-day leaders for positive change, you can improve upon your own life.

Oprah Winfrey

Oprah’s rags-to-riches rise to fame is a well-known story, especially since she has been noted as the most influential woman in the world. However, despite the fact that she can afford the best of the best, Oprah has remained true to her humble roots. Being at the head of a media empire as large as hers has subjected her to criticism and mocking, whether aimed at her weight, her romantic life, or her choice of reading material, but Oprah has found a way to succeed in spite of the naysayers. Through all of her ups and downs in the public eye, Oprah has upheld her own values and done things the way she believed was right. Take a tip from Oprah and follow your gut. It doesn’t mean you will be without hardships or criticisms, but when you do achieve something great, you’ll know it was because you stayed true to yourself.

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6 Unexpected Tips for snoring

dogsleeping.jpgHave you tried counting sheep, drinking warm milk, and listening to whale songs until you can know the difference between the sound of an orca and a beluga and you still can’t fall asleep?

Maybe it’s not your biological clock that’s keeping the Sandman away. It could be that elements of your life that are in disarray. Check out these www.emsafety.net for sleeping better if you’re one of the millions of Americans that tosses and turns at bedtime each night.

Know Where You’re Going

The future is always uncertain, but setting goals makes the unknown a bit more tangible. When you have goals to progressively work toward achieving, you then have a map directing you to where you want to be. Although unexpected challenges and bumps in the road are certain to arise, you will sleep better at night knowing that you have a plan.

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