Comments on: Do Not Wage Psychological Warfare http://www.slowdownfast.com/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/ Brief Motivational Interventions Mirroring the Time-Limited Reality of Human Existence Sat, 18 Sep 2010 19:11:54 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Rich Life Carnival #2 » Your Finish Rich Plan - A Personal Finance Blog http://www.slowdownfast.com/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/comment-page-1/#comment-7453 Rich Life Carnival #2 » Your Finish Rich Plan - A Personal Finance Blog Fri, 16 May 2008 15:56:22 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/#comment-7453 [...] B. Bohl presents Do Not Wage Psychological Warfare posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “As stress in a relationship accumulates, it is only [...] [...] B. Bohl presents Do Not Wage Psychological Warfare posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “As stress in a relationship accumulates, it is only [...]

]]> By: Ben http://www.slowdownfast.com/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/comment-page-1/#comment-7433 Ben Mon, 12 May 2008 04:16:30 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/#comment-7433 One issue, which applies when children are part of the relationship, which I’d like to add, is to be aware of the collateral damage that can be done to children by parents’ psychological warfare. Speaking from first hand experience, the corrosive nature of my mother and stepfather’s relationship – particularly during my adolescent years – had a lasting impact on my adult relationships and informs my fathering style to an enormous degree. Parents are the most important role model a child has and it takes a lot of energy and hard work to overcome hatred and anger being presented as the primary emotional expressions in a relationship. This is something that being a father has helped me overcome, but I have had to develop a huge amount of self-awareness along the way. Thanks for raising an important issue. One issue, which applies when children are part of the relationship, which I’d like to add, is to be aware of the collateral damage that can be done to children by parents’ psychological warfare. Speaking from first hand experience, the corrosive nature of my mother and stepfather’s relationship – particularly during my adolescent years – had a lasting impact on my adult relationships and informs my fathering style to an enormous degree.

Parents are the most important role model a child has and it takes a lot of energy and hard work to overcome hatred and anger being presented as the primary emotional expressions in a relationship. This is something that being a father has helped me overcome, but I have had to develop a huge amount of self-awareness along the way.

Thanks for raising an important issue.

]]> By: susanna http://www.slowdownfast.com/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/comment-page-1/#comment-7413 susanna Thu, 08 May 2008 09:38:48 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/#comment-7413 In my experience the trick here to overcome conflict, and in my opinion the way forward, is to have non-relationships i.e. there is no 'me' versus 'you' there is only us. This 'us-ness' provides space. Where there is space conflict cannot survive only love. Then also everything is always fresh and new. In my experience the trick here to overcome conflict, and in my opinion the way forward, is to have non-relationships i.e. there is no ‘me’ versus ‘you’ there is only us. This ‘us-ness’ provides space. Where there is space conflict cannot survive only love. Then also everything is always fresh and new.

]]> By: Darrell Davis http://www.slowdownfast.com/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/comment-page-1/#comment-7412 Darrell Davis Thu, 08 May 2008 00:25:43 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/do-not-wage-psychological-warfare/#comment-7412 I think your post hits on many of the top issues and proposed remedies to relationship conflict. We can add to that the practice of these techniques. They only matter "in the heat of battle" and that is where so many fail. We must practice conflict resolution. I think your post hits on many of the top issues and proposed remedies to relationship conflict. We can add to that the practice of these techniques. They only matter “in the heat of battle” and that is where so many fail. We must practice conflict resolution.

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