How can I Slow Down Fast?
PARADIGM: Slowing down is counter-intuitive.
- We live fast and hold it in high esteem.
- We compare ourselves to others – we think that those who look busy are happy, excited, and fulfilled – things we’re looking for or missing in our lives
- We fill our lives to the brim. We keep cramming things into our lives ever-searching for the combination of things that will provide us the most pleasure, and we distract ourselves from the tough questions – what’s really important: our values, beliefs, wants, needs, and how to achieve them.
- “Slow” in our society means: lazy, a slacker, a screw-up, or someone who is dumb.
PARADIGM SHIFT: GOOD SLOW
- Speeding around takes away our power to choose. Slowing down increases creativity, productivity, enjoyment, and fulfillment.
- It’s hugely beneficial to take the time to look at a problem or challenge by bringing your insights and perspective. This opens your mind to new possibilities. Creativity expands from there.
- Decisions are made deliberately, consciously, and intuitively instead of relying on old habits, conventions, and paradigms.
- It’s essential to take the time to stop and think about what your life is like, what you’re doing, and where you’re going if you ever expect to get there.
- Slowing Down to take the time to ask yourself: Am I really happy? Excited? Fulfilled? Is this what I want?” allows you to actually achieve those things.
- Taking the time to savor your life enables you to live your life today, not for tomorrow.
What does it mean to Slow Down FAST?
- Slowing down is the best and most efficient/effective way of giving yourself permission to go fast. When you make each decision a mindful, intuitive, and intentional one, instead of a pre-programmed one (that is when you act instead of re-act), you will avoid the distractions, interference, and loss of time (and money) that extemporaneous decisions cause.
- To Slow Down FAST means that we should STOP, then Think, Act, and Live fully today, creating the freedom of time to use however you’d like TODAY , instead of always postponing things until tomorrow. This is in direct contradiction to the convention of the deferred life plan that we’ve all been taught – that if we just work hard enough and long enough our lives will turn out fine, eventually, and it will all be worth it in the end (Slave – Save – Retire as described by Tim Ferriss).
- It means doing the heavy lifting now – taking a look at what your life looks like – your values and beliefs – and designing a life in support of those things.
- It means taking your blinders off, quitting running from one thing to another, coming up for air every once in a while only to plow ahead again. It means slowing that voice (or those voices) down in your head, and asking yourself Am I really happy? Is this what I really want?
- It means not trying to have it all and do it all NOW – trying to accelerate everything and experience everything and be in such a hurry because time is the new currency. You can’t have it all and do it all, despite what the media and popular culture tell you. As Harvard Professor Ben Tal-Shar, creator of the popular Positive Psychology course their, happiness is the ultimate currency.
- It means using technology for what it was intended for – not only to help us to accomplish more in shorter periods of time, but to aid us in our leisure. To learn to use the “off” button that comes with every piece of technology instead of filling our schedules and pushing ourselves to the edge of exhaustion.
- It means that you’re making life harder than it has to be.
- It means that life is too short – you had better do something to enhance your quality of life NOW instead of the quantity of things in your life, and FAST.