Luck: Helping Each Other and Paying it Forward

Some people consider other people “really lucky,” such as the people that accomplished their goals and dreams, those people would say they worked really hard to get it and that luck had nothing to do with it.  Helping each other out, along with hard work, would make sure that everyone cares if everyone else gets a fair deal and the people that need help get that help- in turn everyone would have more of a chance to act like themselves.  If one person is helped along in their career, perhaps in the said person would be more inclined to help other people along.  If we helped each other, no one would need luck, as everyone would have someone else to turn to.An ancient Greek named Menander said, “If we always helped each other, no one would need luck.” Actually, he probably wasn’t all that ancient when he said that, but he was a Greek, and he did live a very, very long time ago, and he was a very wise man.

I want to make a digression on luck. Some people think that other people are “really lucky” because they are able to achieve things they want to accomplish, and reach their dreams. The people considered lucky would probably respond that a lot of hard work went into that luck. That’s very true, but I think that the idea of helping each other also comes into play.

What does helping each other have to do with luck? If we’re all committed to making sure that everyone gets a fair deal, and that someone who needs help gets that help, then everyone will have more of an opportunity to be more of who they are.

Have you ever tried to do something, and fallen just short of reaching your goal? Then have you ever had someone help you?

I know a writer who wrote a mystery novel, her first piece of long fiction. She asked several best-selling authors if they’d read a few pages. The best known writer in her particular subgenre agreed to read fifty pages, then read the whole thing, then read it again and again because she thought it could be really good. In the end, it was never published, but my writer friend accomplished a great dream of hers.

“She was lucky,” people said. But not really. My friend put a lot of work into writing a good, solid novel, and she put a lot of work into writing to authors and asking for their help. That wasn’t luck. Some would say it was luck when the best-selling author agreed to read the first fifty pages, but that wasn’t luck, either. That was, as Menander said, “helping each other.” The author in question had written a lot of books and had gotten a lot of help in her career, and she was passing that help on to my friend.

My friend helps other writers, and other people, because she received so much help in making her way to the point where she is now a very accomplished writer. And all she asks is that the people who receive her help, pass that help on. That’s all her mentor asked, too.

It’s just a mind-blowing concept, the idea that if each person helped another person, if we “pay it forward,” as the book and movie title go, we could all do so much more, just by helping each other.

“If we always helped each other, no one would need luck.” Indeed.

What can you do to help?

  • Has anyone ever reached down and given you a pull when you needed it? Who was it, and what did that person do?
  • What can you do to give another person a hand?
  • Can you do something today?

Thanks to ConferenceCalls.com for including this post in the Business Communications Carnival, the Web Business Marketing Blog for including this in the B2B Marketing Carnival, to Colloquium for featuring this in the Carnival of Family Life ~~ Christmas Edition, and to Father Sez for highlighting this post on his blog.

5 Comments on “Luck: Helping Each Other and Paying it Forward”

  • Excellent post! I think this high-lights one of the fundamental problems in society today – most people you meet are too wrapped up in themselves to worry about helping anyone else, both physically and emotionally. “What’s in it for me” is what most people think instead of getting satisfaction from helping another human being. I know of one person who doesn’t think this way, and I thank your help David.

  • Craig,

    I agree that many people cannot see beyond their needs and wants. The problem is becoming more pervasive as people keep getting busier – trying to do more, have more, and produce more.

    David

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  • This is very true.

    I have often told my younger colleagues most “successful career people” had gotten breaks from someone. The time when they were promoted to a position they had zero experience in. Someone took a “gamble”, calculated or otherwise and gave the guy a break.

    I am not sure, how many receipents accept this as a break or help or just assumed they were the most qualified.

    I tell myself that I’ll treat people as I would want them to treat my children. This has helped in “being nice.”

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