Comments on: Unlearning Helplessness: Take Charge of Your Life http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/ Brief Motivational Interventions Mirroring the Time-Limited Reality of Human Existence Sat, 18 Sep 2010 19:11:54 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: David B. Bohl http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-8896 David B. Bohl Tue, 16 Dec 2008 20:44:40 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-8896 Deborah, Well put. I know that situation all too well. Thanks for visiting and sharing. David Deborah,

Well put. I know that situation all too well.

Thanks for visiting and sharing.

David

]]> By: Deborah http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-8895 Deborah Tue, 16 Dec 2008 19:59:43 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-8895 Your article really resonated with me David, and in so many ways! I see it in myself everyday. When i was young and foolish (as opposed to my now being old and more aware of my foolishness) i used to fantasize that someone; a mentor, a teacher, a knight in shining armor would come and fix my life. (better yet a knight in shining amour!!!) No one is coming to fix me or my life and there are plenty of people willing to step on me to get what they want. You'll never get what's yours if you're not even willing to reach for it. There are so many traps to fall into. My worst one is tv. I can easily spend hours watching someone elses life;someone elses journey to wholeness or acheivement, because my life is so empty. Even knowing as I do, I still have to force myself to turn off the idiot box, put down the twinkie (so to speak), and pick up one of the perfectly good tools that lay like litter around my comfy chair... ..end of rant...thank you. Your article really resonated with me David, and in so many ways! I see it in myself everyday.
When i was young and foolish (as opposed to my now being old and more aware of my foolishness) i used to fantasize that someone; a mentor, a teacher, a knight in shining armor would come and fix my life.
(better yet a knight in shining amour!!!)

No one is coming to fix me or my life and there are plenty of people willing to step on me to get what they want.

You’ll never get what’s yours if you’re not even willing to reach for it.

There are so many traps to fall into. My worst one is tv. I can easily spend hours watching someone elses life;someone elses journey to wholeness or acheivement, because my life is so empty.

Even knowing as I do, I still have to force myself to turn off the idiot box, put down the twinkie (so to speak), and pick up one of the perfectly good tools that lay like litter around my comfy chair…

..end of rant…thank you.

]]> By: Clem M http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-5845 Clem M Mon, 10 Mar 2008 11:04:16 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-5845 Everytime when I do something for my growth and development, seems like there's always someone who will go all the way to undo all that.Then,a friend of mine, made this observation that made me believe her. To make this short, is: everytime I clean my windows it rains which seems to confirm that what I do,there will always be a counter action to undo all that good.- True story. Everytime when I do something for my growth and development, seems like there’s always someone who will go all the way to undo all that.Then,a friend of mine, made this observation that made me believe her. To make this short, is: everytime I clean my windows it rains which seems to confirm that what I do,there will always be a counter action to undo all that good.- True story.

]]> By: Albert | UrbanMonk.Net http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-2338 Albert | UrbanMonk.Net Sun, 09 Dec 2007 01:37:17 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-2338 Learned helplessness was the first thing that I learnt about when I started personal development, it is one of the most dreadful things ever, and I appreciate this article all the more for it. Cheers, Albert | <a href="http://www.urbanmonk.net" rel="nofollow">UrbanMonk.Net</a> Modern personal development, entwined with ancient spirituality. Learned helplessness was the first thing that I learnt about when I started personal development, it is one of the most dreadful things ever, and I appreciate this article all the more for it.

Cheers,
Albert | UrbanMonk.Net
Modern personal development, entwined with ancient spirituality.

]]> By: David B. Bohl http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1686 David B. Bohl Sat, 24 Nov 2007 17:36:00 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-1686 Mathew, Agreed that it's difficult to take responsibility for ourselves, and take action in the form of doing the next right thing, when we don't take the time to be honest with ourselves and continue to get to know, and be comfortable with, ourselves. David Mathew,

Agreed that it’s difficult to take responsibility for ourselves, and take action in the form of doing the next right thing, when we don’t take the time to be honest with ourselves and continue to get to know, and be comfortable with, ourselves.

David

]]> By: Matthew | www.loving http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1685 Matthew | www.loving Sat, 24 Nov 2007 17:32:01 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-1685 I would say that helplessness often comes from being disconnected from ourselves. Being whole is really the main source of power we have. Our child rearing and educational system can easily contribute to disconnecting our initiative, anger, and "spunk" from ourselves. Trying to change behavior without reconnecting is usually another act of helplessness! Article I wrote that's relevant : <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/11/23/breaking-through-the-chains-of-identity/" rel="nofollow"> Breaking through chains of identity</a> I would say that helplessness often comes from being disconnected from ourselves. Being whole is really the main source of power we have. Our child rearing and educational system can easily contribute to disconnecting our initiative, anger, and “spunk” from ourselves. Trying to change behavior without reconnecting is usually another act of helplessness!

Article I wrote that’s relevant :
Breaking through chains of identity

]]> By: David B. Bohl http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1346 David B. Bohl Mon, 12 Nov 2007 20:42:13 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-1346 Dina, You said it! Benjamin Franklin wrote in his letters on life and prosperity, and was published in Poor Richard's Almanac, as adhering to the maxim: "God helps those who help themselves." One needn't take this literally, nor is it a stretch, to understand that he was cautioning against learned helplessness. Dina,

You said it!

Benjamin Franklin wrote in his letters on life and prosperity, and was published in Poor Richard’s Almanac, as adhering to the maxim: “God helps those who help themselves.”

One needn’t take this literally, nor is it a stretch, to understand that he was cautioning against learned helplessness.

]]> By: Dina at Wordfeeder.com http://www.slowdownfast.com/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1345 Dina at Wordfeeder.com Mon, 12 Nov 2007 19:33:18 +0000 http://www.slowdownfast.com/blog/unlearning-helplessness-take-charge-of-your-life/#comment-1345 Hi David, what a post! So true... and no, I don't think your description exaggerates one bit. I've known people like this in my life and found them to be entirely frustrating. One can also describe such people as passive. One good thing about folks like this... they leave plenty of room for people who take a more active approach to get where they need to be faster! Hi David, what a post! So true… and no, I don’t think your description exaggerates one bit. I’ve known people like this in my life and found them to be entirely frustrating. One can also describe such people as passive. One good thing about folks like this… they leave plenty of room for people who take a more active approach to get where they need to be faster!

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